If there's one thing I don't care about, it's fucking. I just don't like it. Bottoming is impossible for me, and I'm sensitive enough that topping is unpleasant at best. For me, a scene doesn't need to work up to taking a dick up the ass or me demolishing some helpless guy. I don't even like getting blow jobs for christ's sake.
So basically, what the fuck? This usually isn't a problem when I'm in a dominant role. Regardless of who gets off, I like to think that everyone involved usually has a good bit of fun. The story changes all together when I'm the one getting tied. Yes, being helplessly bound in a compromising position is an immense turn on, but that stops the instant someone starts trying to slide their finger in me. That hurts more than I can properly elucidate. Even if you manage to get me past the mind-bogglingly unpleasant pain, it's still riotously uncomfortable for me.
Again, for the most part this isn't an issue. The people who I sub for with any regularity either know my limits or aren't interested in that, which is fine. This system breaks down when I find myself at a bar or in a random encounter where my limits either haven't or can't easily be expressed. Nothing kills a hot gropefest faster than having to bat someone's hand away from my ass and explain that I'm so fucking absurdly sensitive. Hookups? Noooope. Yeah, you're hot and I'd love to spend the evening cuddling with you, but oh you're just interested in fucking? Ok bye.
Aaaaaanyway, couple more things worth noting.
• As initially suspected, I can now confirm that I don't like pain. I'm not a masochist, chewing on my nipples or ears does nothing for me. Again, incredibly sensitive body. Yeah, I'm bummed too. If you are absolutely, 100% dead-set on inflicting pain, for the love of all that is holy, start slow. Don't just jump right into bite-mark city.
• Stop. Tickling. Me. Just fucking stop. I hate it. It's not a turn on. It just kills the mood for me and makes me tired. Yes, I'm loud, yes it's probably goddamn hilarious and it breaks the ice like nobody's business but I'm sick of it. The accidental tickling thanks to my absurdly sensitive skin is more than enough, thank you very much.
• I'm not addressing anyone directly with these last two posts. I know the last one was interpreted that way and this one sure as hell can be, but that's not my intention. I'm thinking of this as a way to clear the air and lay out my limits well beforehand. I understand that this comes across as incredibly passive-aggressive and bitchy, but I think it's more important to put everything out there all at once. Please don't interpret this as me being angry at one specific person. I'm not.
Let's end this on a positive note!
Wanna see what I did to (the insanely hot) @SomaBoyAtl? From the back and from the front. Then I got tied up by a guy from kink.com!